For some married couples with an abundance of problems, divorce may seem like the only way to put an end to the madness. However, divorce isn't always the "easy way" out. Here are some things to consider before heading to your attorney's office:

Your spouse may not want a divorce

If your spouse isn't in agreement that divorce is the answer to your problems, then he or she may contest it. You could spend your money retaining an attorney only to arrive at court to be ordered to go to marriage counseling. Communicating with your spouse is important, even if you two aren't getting along. You need to sit down and speak with him or her and find out if your spouse desires a divorce.

Things may not improve after the divorce

If you and your spouse have children, then obviously the two of you will still have to have some sort of relationship. If you are tired of arguing on a regular basis, then the arguing is likely not going to end after you're divorced. In fact, it could even increase in frequency and severity. You are very likely to be unable to agree who should have the kids when, and so on. Not only would this be unhealthy for the children, but it could cause a great deal of stress, which could lead to health problems. If you are still in love with your spouse, then you may want to seek marriage counseling instead of heading straight to divorce court.

Your relationship with your children may never be the same

If you and your spouse have children together, then you might be disappointed to see your relationship with your children permanently change after the divorce. Even if you have joint or full custody, there is something about severing a family that negatively impacts children. Children sometimes believe that divorce is a result of something they did wrong, which could lead to years of anger, confusion and resentment. It might be a good idea to find a good therapist for your children. Even if you ultimately decide not to proceed with the divorce, your children are likely aware of the problems that you and your spouse have. Therapy could help the children to cope better and to understand that any problems in your marriage is not their fault.

Consider your assets

If you are not concerned about assets and you won't fight your spouse's requests for the house, the car and other items that you've obtained together, then things will be easier for you. However, if you would like to have some say-so regarding who gets what, then you may need to face the possibility that your spouse may be awarded assets that you intended to keep.

Alimony and child support

If you earn significantly more money than your spouse and he or she requests alimony, then you may be ordered to pay it. Of course if there are children, then you will likely pay child support, as well, unless you have full custody. Alimony and child support amounts will vary from state to state as well as according to how much you make. However, you can plan on having a large percentage of your income taken to pay for your ex's living expenses and possible child support.

As you can see, divorce isn't always as simple as it may seem. There are certain laws that may prevent things from going in your favor, and in fact, things may actually become worse following the divorce. So before you make a decision that you may live to regret, you need to take all these things into consideration and decide if you truly want a divorce. You might just find that you would actually prefer to make an attempt at working things out.